tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post5671532735935948628..comments2023-10-31T06:48:39.805-04:00Comments on The Reluctant Prophet: An Open Letter to My MotherKLeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00432371404842970536noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-41846982159664939982006-11-03T12:43:00.000-05:002006-11-03T12:43:00.000-05:00Thank you, everyone. I really appreciate your war...Thank you, everyone. I really appreciate your warm words and good wishes, I really do. I am very lucky to have friends like you in my life.KLeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432371404842970536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-76119227976636397292006-11-03T11:10:00.000-05:002006-11-03T11:10:00.000-05:00This is too good a letter to leave it up to chance...This is too good a letter to leave it up to chance that your mom may find it.<br /><br />You are beautiful. And strong. And smart. And did I mention beautiful?<br /><br />Lots of hugs.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-88614169466930761242006-11-03T04:37:00.000-05:002006-11-03T04:37:00.000-05:00Big hugs. I wish you could really send a letter li...Big hugs. I wish you could really send a letter like this to your mom, and that she would understand.purple_kangaroohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02543172194041505144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-10174538164823712812006-11-02T23:12:00.000-05:002006-11-02T23:12:00.000-05:00More hugs KLee. You are a beautiful, sensitive, ca...More hugs KLee. You are a beautiful, sensitive, caring person. I'm so sorry that your mother has hurt you in this way. <br /><br />(((KLee)))Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03407981987874669303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-57304680384314310202006-11-02T16:49:00.000-05:002006-11-02T16:49:00.000-05:00This letter made me cry.
You said it so beautif...This letter made me cry. <br /><br />You said it so beautifully ... and I think that what you say resonates with many people who have been hurt by those kind of insensitive remarks.<br /><br />Sending a hug ....jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-25533262932040060922006-11-02T07:27:00.000-05:002006-11-02T07:27:00.000-05:00My father,who lived in this same town, used to sen...My father,who lived in this same town, used to send me via US mail, helpful articles on how to lose weight. I truly understand your position when you tell your mother <br /><br />"Do you think I don't know that I'm fat? Trust me, I obsess about it enough without you reminding me." <br /> <br />What makes people think they have the right to say these things? Parent or not? I'm with Monique!<br />What I hate most, someone else with a Dunlop telling me that I don't need to eat a certain food.<br />Kiss My Ass I say.<br /><br />Hang in there!Old Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06333172930957879928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-87784715855424053282006-11-01T21:48:00.000-05:002006-11-01T21:48:00.000-05:00That's a wonderful and honest post even though it ...That's a wonderful and honest post even though it deals with a lot of pain KLee. I think my mom knows your mom! :-)Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10769930056412752986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-79165794735808473292006-11-01T20:09:00.000-05:002006-11-01T20:09:00.000-05:00I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how hard it must b...I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how hard it must be to have your mother criticize the one area where most women are so sensitive. <br /><br />You are doing a wonderful job with Offspring. No child should ever have to feel uncomfortable in their own skin around thier parents. <br /><br />P.S. I've always thought you were a very beautiful person. (((KLee)))ccwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319415763862282537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-88882194012272481552006-11-01T15:39:00.000-05:002006-11-01T15:39:00.000-05:00Oh, KLee, *hugs*
I think it's tremendous that you...Oh, KLee, *hugs*<br /><br />I think it's tremendous that you were able to so clearly articulate the hurt that you feel. Small consolation, I understand, but it's a step in a good direction!<br /><br />It seems that with many people in our parent's generation, they are almost afraid to be wholeheartedly supportive of their offspring. There are countless little wounds and scabs that get picked and picked and picked. I'll be generous and say that they do the picking unconsciously. Your scab is your physical weight.<br /><br />I've confronted my own parents about the wounds and scabs that they pick, pick, pick. Protestations are made about negative intent. The behaviour continues. *shrug*<br /><br />I hope you find a way to resolve this issue with your mother, without losing the ability to appreciate the good parts about her (and especially YOU) too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-51550032631111251382006-11-01T13:26:00.000-05:002006-11-01T13:26:00.000-05:00Klee, I like the way you wrote this letter, by fir...Klee, I like the way you wrote this letter, by first telling your mom what a good person you think she is and then by getting to the heart of how you are being hurt by one particular behavior. My mother and I have sometimes sent each other letters over the years. Perhaps you shouldn't wait for her to find her way here. Perhaps you should send this to her. Let her know that it's coming, and then send it. <br /><br />This isn't a hurtful letter, though it's full of honesty, and your own hurt. Maybe a bold step is what is needed here. If you don't take the steps to make your mom aware, in no uncertain terms, that her behavior hurts you, then it might not ever change. That's a shame, because the ability to change it might be right here on this powerful and moving page.<br /><br />Hugs to you.mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00219939239649337581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-38019702194683217132006-11-01T09:28:00.000-05:002006-11-01T09:28:00.000-05:00Hugs, Klee.Hugs, Klee.Marnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03543853940645527249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-36244968749139645312006-11-01T08:20:00.000-05:002006-11-01T08:20:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how painful that mus...I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how painful that must be.<br /><br />You are a wonderful, generous, intelligent, large-hearted person. I'm sorry your mom seems fixated on something so trivial when you have so many good things to offer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-22067491685748245782006-10-31T23:09:00.000-05:002006-10-31T23:09:00.000-05:00More hugs.
Been there. Done that. It sucks.More hugs.<br /><br />Been there. Done that. It sucks.Karynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16454832927860410268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-68945131144793593042006-10-31T19:27:00.000-05:002006-10-31T19:27:00.000-05:00My mom used to say the same kind of things, with e...My mom used to say the same kind of things, with exactly the result Phantom describes above.<br />And when I was skinny? She made me feel awful then, too. I wonder if there isn't some unconscious competitive dynamic with the daughter that influences these behaviors? Not that it helps stop them or makes us feel better to be evolved enough to be different. It only makes the lack in our relationships with our moms more bitter when we are working so hard to do it differently ourselves.<br />(((KLee)))Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08235049965406944684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14917571.post-1270111325489499872006-10-31T19:13:00.000-05:002006-10-31T19:13:00.000-05:00Awww, KLee, I'm so sorry. Maybe you could send yo...Awww, KLee, I'm so sorry. Maybe you could send your not-too-internet-savvy mom a copy of <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/29/weekinreview/29kolata.html?ex=1319778000&en=ef89b26d4a9c4e41&ei=5088&partner=rssnyt&emc=rss">this article</a>. And highlight the part about how people who were made to feel bad about their weight responded by eating more. So if she's <i>really</i> concerned about your weight and health and all that, the best thing she could possibly do is stop making you feel bad about it!Phantom Scribblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03258384756183844406noreply@blogger.com